My four b’s. Ways to heal the thoughts we don’t want. Anxiety, depression, OCD.

It so easy to side with the negative. It seems easier sometimes.. and why.. I don’t really know. Maybe self pity is a cry for help. It’s so hard to deal with the cycles of anxiety, depression, OCD. Constant thoughts daily, 24/7. There is a thought, a worry, a stress, a form of unsteadiness, daily. What is this! I asked myself once. What is this happening in my head. Is it normal to think something bad is going to happen to me, is it normal to ask for trouble, is it normal to feel stuck, is it normal to see dark when it’s bright. I had to ask myself although I knew it’s was not normal.. but it’s become my norm. The cycle is rough. I worry I feel depressed, than later I get guilty for feeling so much hate when I have so many blessings in my life. I worry about an illness I see in front of my eyes. That is most likely not even contagious, but to me.. “what if” Than the guilt hits. I worry that because I judged them Im going to catch the illness. This is not even close to normal thinking. My rational side knows this, and luckily we do still have our rational side however, the irrational is kicking some butt at the moment. So don’t forget there is help, there is hope! You can learn to heal the thoughts. The thoughts that drive your mind in circles.

Breathe, this is a great way to start calming thoughts. Sounds obvious and silly, but seriously, just breathe nice and slow, feel your heart rate slow down, your cells slow down. Your mind slow down. As you are inhaling imagine a bright healing light entering with your breaths. Put yourself into a state of deep relaxation. You can also do this by meditating. Imagine a gentle waterfall of pure water falling onto you, cleansing your mind and body. I also feel you should believe.

Believing you can change will help you changes believing your thoughts make things happen. It’s true. You can make yourself feel better and you can make yourself feel worse. The mind is so powerful.

Be Brave. Don’t ever give up. Mental illness can make you feel so hopeless it’s easy to just throw the towel in but you can’t, you just cannot! Be Brave!
Balance. Try your hardest to find balance. Weather it’s balance with your diet, balance on your work load versus you time, balance walking versus driving. Just strive to have as much balance in your life, body, mind as possible. Everything in moderation is key.

So try to remember the FOUR B’S when you need to heal the thoughts.

Breathing, Believing, Brave, Balance.


Cuddle in a cup.

A cuddle in a cup.

Drinking tea can help alleviate your thoughts and help calm the body. Anytime my head is racing and I need a nice cuddle in a cup I have one of my favourite teas. Here are my top5:


Lavender is a legendary spiritually rejuvenating herb that relaxes your mind and quiets the ego voice. It is beautiful before a meditation, as it relaxes and calms the mind. Lavender brings a deeper spiritual understanding. This herb helps cast away any fears about embracing your spiritual gifts. This tea will help you breathe a sigh of relief.



Peppermint is a common yet still powerful spiritual plant that helps motivate and inspire you, bringing you new creative ideas on how to achieve your dreams/goals. It clears your sinuses and helps you breathe deep and confident. Add a bit of vanilla to make this tea even more cuddly.



Ginger tea releases anger and frustration. It helps you let go of resentment and jealousy, bringing you to a place of contentment and balance.



Camomile helps attract positivity. This pleasant tasting spiritual tea relaxes your energy, your mind, and your body. Chamomile helps you feel supported and guided. Great tea to bring travelling. Drink when you are on those lost days. When you drink chamomile, you get through your challenges.

Passion flower

Passion flower eases you into a restful sleep. The flower, vine, and leaves contain substances that have proven, gentle sedating qualities. Recommended by herbalists as a top treatment for insomnia, it’s especially helpful when sleep is disturbed by anxiety and racing thoughts. Have this cuddle right before you lay your lovely head.

twenty minutes go by. A story of insomnia.

She lays down on one side, hand under her head. Nice and cozied up in her blankets. Comforted with a mini flowered hot water bottle, warming up the sheets. Twenty minutes go by,
she turns sides. Shuffling her feet in and around the blankets.  Twenty minutes go by,
She turns sides, again. This time
She ads a sigh, and a bit of a rough flip around of the body. Wiggling her feet in distress. Twenty minutes go by,
She lays on her back, trying for any position to help her sleep. Thinking maybe all too hard just about really falling asleep. Twenty minutes go by,
She’s adjusted herself back onto her side. Cuddled with a hot water bottle uncertain of why she can’t let go of the day. Twenty minutes go by,
She gets up to go the bathroom. She turns on the bright light despite the fact that her eyes are solely adjusted to the dark. Squinting and sighing she returns to bed. Twenty minutes go by,
She starts crying, she’s frustrated, angry, confused, tired and counting down the hours until her alarm goes off. Twenty minutes go by,
She finally drifted into a daze, sleeping softly, she finally lays her over thinking head down, and closes her tired eyes. She’s finally at peace for that day, getting sometime to stop thinking and shut off her mind. ¬†This, to her is relax time. Twenty minutes go by,
Her alarm goes off, beep, beep, beeep, she hits the stop buttonwith disbelief that it’s really time to wake up. Twenty minutes go by,
She arrives at work, showered, smelling nice, and with a pearly white smile, having a laugh. As if she’s ready for her day .. and no one knows her battle she had all night with the infamous, Insomnia.

essential oils are essential to healing the thoughts.

1. Lavender

Lavender is known for its calming and relaxing properties. Diffusing lavender oil can help put your nervous system in a relaxed state vs. the fight-or-flight one that many of us often resort to during stressful times. Ingest a few drops after a busy day to calm down and promote a restful sleep.

2. Frankincense

Frankincense is an amazing oil that has been used to support healthy cell function for thousands of years. Frankincense aroma offers wonderful mood support and can help improve focus, minimize distractions, and improve concentration. It also reduces hyperactivity, impatience, irritability, and restlessness.

3. Vetiver

Vetiver, a member of the grass family, is a really nice, thicker oil that carries an earthy fragrance. It has powerful calming and grounding effects on emotions, which make it an ideal oil in massage therapy. It can be used to relieve stress, promote restful sleep, and aid in recovery from emotional trauma and shock.

4. Lemon

Citrus oils like lemon are very uplifting to the mind and body. Lemon, when used aromatically, promotes physical energy and purification. There are many clinical studies supporting the use of lemon essential oil for reducing stress and boosting mood.

5. Peppermint

Peppermint is a popular oil that is said to stimulate the mind to help support memory, focus, concentration, and mental performance.

In addition to the oils above, here are a couple of mood-boosting blends to try out:

-For worried, anxious thoughts:
Ylang Ylang
Clary Sage

-To elevate mood and increase vitality:

Ylang Ylang

-To support restful sleep:


It’s needs more than a prescription, it’s need compassion.

I am hoping this blog can be a place to start any type of discussions, absolutely no judgment. I am very passionate about mental health and feel it’s one of those things not everyone can talk about. A lot of people roll eyes at some with mental illness thinking we are “weak” living with mental illness every day is one of the strongest things you can do. It’s not easy, so here on this blog feel comfortable, I have been there, I am still there. I want to hear ideas, thoughts, questions, my goal is to help bring awareness to mental health as much as I possibly can. And attempt a more natural approach for everyone. It needs more than a perscription. It’s need compassion.

Cleansing Thoughts. Poem

Lost in my thoughts, in my comparisons, not knowing which path to take.

I opened my windows as the sage smoke smuthered me. Recharged me. Scrubbed me clean of sadness, hurt and loneliness.

Out with the strong gust of wind went all the negative dust that was taking over the thoughts. Now I see crystal clear. Thank you, Quartz. You have been there for me. A gem of knowledge teaching me to love myself. Living right by my heart. Helping me find my way through the busy city I live in called my thoughts.